Today at work a man looked over at me as he was walking away with his ice cream cone and said, "sweetheart, you should smile more".
I wish I could say that I stood up for myself in that moment and informed him that his remark was both sexist and completely NOT okay to say to any woman. Honestly though, I didn't know how to handle the situation as an employee/ server. I felt like I needed to be both polite and stern which, in retrospect, is complete bullshit. Why should I feel an obligation to be polite to a man who is spewing these sexist ideals of how women should present themselves. I wish I had told him that by telling me to "smile more" he was essentially asking me to be a thing for him to look at, a pleasant piece of background to enjoy.
There are two things I feel are important to mention at this point. First, that this is by far not the most serious or harmful situation in which misogyny is played out on a daily basis. Second, that if we don't start somewhere - with these small, seemingly harmless comments - there will never be an end to it. His comment came just after another man called me "princess", and I think I can speak for many, many women out there when I say THIS SHITTY SEXIST DEMEANING BEHAVIOUR NEEDS TO STOP. It doesn't matter if no one else thinks it's a "big deal". You shouldn't have to convince yourself that you're building it up to something bigger than it really is. We all deserve respect and dignity. We all deserve to feel comfortable and safe.
There is so much that I want to say, but for now, I'm going to leave it here. I think that it is really important for people to talk about their experiences no matter how small that experience may seem. The more people who share their stories, the more people who will become aware. I feel extremely lucky that I work in a shop where my co-workers and employers will support me, and if someone speaks like this again to me I will be sure to speak up right back.
This juice. Actually, I am not entirely sure that it's appropriate to call it juice. It's more like a mix between a smoothie and a juice. It is super fresh with a deep, earthy undertone from the basil and the dates. If you are looking for something smoother, you can easily strain it to eliminate all of the pulp. However, I really love the substance and texture that the pulp adds. My favourite way to drink this is under the shade of a nice big tree, over in the park. It works perfectly in these mason jar mugs because you can just pop a lid on it and bring it anywhere! I brought a jar full over to my dad's place for a taste testing and *ahem* have still not gotten my jar back!
For a little extra fun add a shot of gin to your juice and dance away in that summer heat!
Watermelon Nectarine Blueberry Basil Ginger Juice
- 3 cups watermelon, cubed
- 2 sprigs fresh basil
- 1 tsp ginger juice
- the juice from 2 lemons
- 1/3 cup blueberries
- 1 nectarine, sliced
- 1-2 pitted medjool dates (depending on desired sweetness)
Grate approximately 1 tbsp of fresh ginger and press it through a fine mesh sieve to extract juice.
Combine watermelon, basil, ginger juice, and lemon juice in a blender and blend on high speed until fully combine. Add in the blueberries, nectarine, and dates and blend until smooth (it will still be pulpy). Strain if desired and serve immediately. Juice is best fresh, but should last in the refrigerator for about a day.